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Marriage and Sex

SHE: “Behold, you are beautiful, my beloved, truly delightful . . . His left hand is under my head, and his right hand embraces me!  I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem . . . that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases.” (Song of Solomon 1:17; 2:6-7) HE: “Arise, my love, my beautiful one, and come away.” (Song of Solomon 2:13) Lord, You have blessed marriage with sex, and you have blessed sex with marriage.  Thank you for putting those blessings together and making our lives richer because of it.  If I am going to talk…

The Marriage Dance

“Husbands, love your wives . . . (Eph 5:25) “Wives, submit to your husbands . . . (Eph 5:23) Father, let me lead Leanne in love, as Christ would lead His church. I need you for this. One of the biggest problems people have with the Biblical description of marital leadership is that they never consider what Scripture says about that leadership.  They have in mind their own notions of leadership, often from seeing sinful, abusive leaders, and they replace Biblical leadership with their own notions and then proceed to smack down Biblical leadership.  When they do their smack down,…

Marriage and Leadership: Some Objections

You are all children of God through faith in Christ Jesus, for all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. (Gal 3:26-8) Wives submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. (Col 3:18) Lord, you have given me a wonderful wife and life partner in Leanne, and I am so grateful. By your grace, make me a leader who honors her. Before you read this blog, please read both Scriptures quoted above. OK….

Marriage and Leadership

“For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the Church.” (Eph 5:22) Thank you Father, that you have created in husbands and wives a beautiful picture of Christ and His Bride.  May you grant a renewal of what you made marriage to be, that the world may see in its midst the glory of Christ. Let’s talk leadership today, and let’s begin by talking generically.  Suppose the CEO of a company steps down.  Who leads next?  Generally, the company has some protocol in place for who that would be.  But what if there…

Principles for a Strong Marriage II

Lord, as you have committed yourself to your church, and as your church has committed herself to You, may I, in turn, be completely committed to my bride and she to me.  “Happy families are all alike.  Every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”  (Tolstoy) Thus is the opening line of Anna Karenina.  Tolstoy then goes on to elucidate some unhappy families.  Concerning happy families, Tolstoy is largely correct.  Concerning unhappy families, he is correct mainly on the externals.  Happy families and unhappy families all experience a million different types of struggles, but the happy families endure them,…